There seems to be a lot of confusion lately about why more men, specifically younger men, are becoming misogynistic. The discussion seems to have emerged more recently with the rise of influencers like Andrew Tate and Nick Fuentes, but the reasons given by the mainstream outlets and by corporate journalists seem to dodge reality. There is a fundamental truth behind this growth in misogyny, but no one is allowed to talk about it. The reason no one is allowed to talk about it is, in fact, one of the leading contributors to this new phenomenon among young men.

Blame seems to fall toward everything but the root cause. The new "manosphere" of influencers gets most of the heat, followed closely by economic conditions and my most favourite red herring: male insecurity. Overall, the blame for misogyny falls squarely on men. We're becoming more angry and hateful toward women because we're just insecure idiots. 

That's the fake excuse. 

No one has the balls to ask where the manosphere came from. What made open misogynists like Tate and Fuentes appear in the first place? Where did Clavicular's attitude toward women come from? Did these men just randomly wake up one day and decide to resent women? Or, did something compel them to have these views? The reasonable answer is the latter.

Like with all things, misogyny among young men has a cause. However, most women are either too oblivious to notice it, or too dishonest to acknowledge it. Most men tend to see it, but they're never allowed to say it. They aren't allowed to be honest about it. When they are, they get attacked. Ironically, this makes them even more angry. 

So, what is it? What's making more and more young men resent and dislike women?

Female Behaviour

It is, actually, that simple. With every generation, it appears that women and young girls get more entitled, more arrogant, more smarmy, and more insufferable. Even worse, they appear to be offering less and less in relationships. 

More young women don't want kids, they don't want to cook, clean, or be motherly. For the valuable men they want to attract, women bring little value to the table. In turn, attractive and valuable men briefly date them for sex and good times, before dumping them and moving on in their quest to find a woman they can marry and build a family with. 

This makes women more angry and hateful toward men, which only perpetuates the clear tension between our sexes. 

Western women like to believe men are deceitful pigs who only want one thing. They tend to be right, but with an important caveat: men only want one thing from a woman who has nothing but that "one thing" to offer. 

Sorry ladies. I bet you're mad now, eh?

Most men want a woman to settle down with. A partner in crime. They want someone feminine, nurturing, warm, and willing to raise a family. However, men are also very sexual and simple, which makes us appear the way we do. The paradox you see as a woman has a very simple explanation. It's not complicated. 

When a man finds a nice woman, who also happens to nurture and take care of him, the likelihood of adultery diminishes drastically. Men are simple and it doesn't take much to keep us happy. I know it sounds like a lot, but it really isn't. Every man just needs a woman who understands and loves him unconditionally. 

Because we have physical desires, we often seek out good times with women who don't offer much of that. In the end, it makes us look and feel like assholes. However, when we find that one right woman, the rest of the world disappears. We become content and happy. 

Ironically, that very thing eventually tends to piss women off.

The contentment that men fall into often looks like complacency. Sometimes it does, in fact, become complacency. We can become neglectful, or appear lazy, only because we feel comfortable. That tends to rub wives and girlfriends the wrong way over time. Eventually, both sides stop properly communicating and instead choose to make assumptions. This is how marriages end. 

However, marriage is another topic. 

More young men are becoming misogynists because more and more women are becoming overtly hateful, arrogant, judgmental, dismissive and hypocritical. Women are outright mocking the idea of being nurturing and caring toward men. The "female double standard" has become entrenched across most of Western society and young men are noticing it. 

Checklists And Incels

When it comes to dating, almost every woman has a checklist. Men, however, aren't allowed to have standards when it comes to dating and courting women. Men aren't allowed to express their desire to date a physically fit girl, or a girl that didn't used to be a man. But, make no mistake, men have checklists.

Of course men have standards and expectations. We just aren't allowed to express them, talk about them, or be open about them. Instead, we get labelled players when we briefly date or sleep with a girl, only to eventually realize she isn't right for us. We quietly date and dump, much like many women do, but with more negative criticism.

Only women are allowed to openly desire a man no less than 5'9" with a good job and a nice car.  When a man expresses his desire for a woman who isn't fat and who likes to cook, he faces backlash and name-calling. Only women can briefly date or sleep with a man and then dump him. Only women are allowed to treat dating like an auction. Only women are allowed to seek out high value men and make fun of losers. 

Tell me I'm wrong. You know you can't, because you know it's true.

Now tell me you don't know why more and more young men are withdrawing from the whole courting and chivalry thing. You know it's because they keep facing shame and ridicule for having particular desires and expectations, while being constantly judged and cut down by women for not being tall enough, rich enough, or masculine enough. 

Does that mean young men are victims? No, it means they're little bitches that need to man up. But maybe we can see what it's like to walk in their shoes before casting them out as low IQ misogynists who hate women just because Andrew Tate told them to. 

It's Ok When She Does It

Every man who has had a mother, wife, sister, or girlfriend knows it's ok when she does it. It's ok when a wife body shames her husband and makes fun of his potbelly. It's ok when women expect a man to do man things. It's ok for women to have a dating checklist. It's ok for women to date younger men. It's ok for women to go on big "eat, love, pray" adventures around the world to "find themselves" like Julia Roberts did. It's ok for her to criticize him. 

Every man knows this. Sadly, so do most women. 

There are countless memes and reels on social media of wives ridiculing their husbands. There are reels in which wives make light of their own hypocrisy and their husband's idiocy. Women will admit to expecting their man to put down his phone at night right after she does... like it's normal to have a one-sided set of rules in a relationship. 

Are there reels of men making fun of their wives? Absolutely, but with much heavier criticism. Which follows the point being made here. The "it's ok when I do it, unacceptable when he does it" mentality is so blatant in our society that it can't be ignored. 

It's outrageous when Andrew Tate disparages women on a podcast, but the "KAM-Kill All Men" podcast is totally hilarious and acceptable.

How about the countless examples of women expressing disgust over men who date younger women, but who appear less bothered by women who do the same. More recently, Charlize Theron admitted to sleeping with a man in his early twenties, only to be praised by gossip columnists for living her life to its fullest and "experiencing" her womanhood. The same isn't true for Toby McGuire, who has faced backlash for dating a girl one-third his age.

A woman trying to find herself is empowering, a man trying to find himself is toxic, very typical, and disgusting. Charlize Theron liking younger men: "f*cking amazing". Toby McGuire liking younger women: "disturbing". Those aren't my words, that's People Magazine and various gossip writers.

The list could go on for miles, but we get the picture. Men are facing an increasing amount of hostility from women. However, most men will put up with it. The double standard is so deeply entrenched across most of society that he could lose his job, face devastating backlash, or get divorced and lose his children. Women can't handle criticism and men know it. They know that criticizing a woman often comes with dramatic consequences. They know that generalizing like this, and criticizing female behaviour publicly, could be career-ending.

Does this mean men don't have double standards? Absolutely not. But having double standards in a relationship, or privately, is a far cry from an entire society normalizing it. 

History

Men get it. We understand that women have had a history of oppression in our society. About a hundred years ago, women couldn't vote or drive cars. However, those days are long gone. There aren't any rights left for women to claim that only men have. We aren't even allowed to have men-only clubs anymore without some sort of backlash. But, women can.

We have to stop and ask ourselves if completely turning the tables on men is the right choice. Rather than pressing for equality across the board, modern feminism is pressing for equity. It started with equality, but has evolved into pure equity. The difference: equality expects women to elevate themselves while being offered opportunities once exclusive to men. Equity expects men to be knocked down, or to step aside, so women can excel. This is what modern feminism has become and the results are undeniable. 

Our society now expressly uses the term equity over equality. We hear about it everywhere. Unfortunately, it's an insane concept when put into practice.

The tension between our genders is the result of equity and modern feminism. What was once a movement about equality, freedom, and liberation has morphed into a movement about payback and redemption. Women don't want a level playing field and equality, because it exposes the truth. It shows us that women can't do everything a man can. Worse, it proves that they probably shouldn't try. 

With that said, every man knows there are things he can't and shouldn't do. 

Women are empathetic caregivers. Men are simple, logical machines. I didn't make those rules, nature did. Or, maybe whatever God you believe in made those rules. Either way, it's how things are. Rather than fight every aspect of our nature just to prove a point, maybe we should start embracing who we are. Until men somehow evolve to breastfeed, things aren't about to change. 

We can keep pushing against the grain until something finally gives, or women and men can start understanding and accepting each other. No more double standards for anyone, just standards. 

Real equality, or deeper division. Those are the options.